Friday, April 24, 2015

BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND

Are you unsure of who you are, and what you want your legacy to be?

Stephen Covey, author of "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People", has a great exercise in Chapter 2 - Begin With The End In Mind, in which he has you go to your own funeral.

A Lady Named Pearl's version:
Close your eyes, and imagine that you are driving down a road. You turn, and enter the parking area of a church, and park. As you are walking into the church, you hear a woman singing Amazing Grace. You make your way down the aisle to see what is going on. A casket is positioned in front of the pulpit. You walk towards it, and see that it is you in the casket - it's your funeral! Friends and loved ones are gathered around. Various people say words about you.

What do you want them to say about you? Whatever you want them to say...is WHO YOU ARE!

I want people to say "Pearl inspired billions of people (through mediums of education (schools), speaking engagements, books, music, films, etc)!" "Pearl was strong and defied the odds." "Pearl was a wonderful wife and mother!"

What do you want people to say about you at your funeral?

Sunday, April 12, 2015

PEARL SCHOOL OF MODELING - SIGN UP FOR OUR SUMMER SESSION!

PEARL SCHOOL OF MODELING: Summer session begins May 7th. Classes held at celebrity photographer Drexina Nelson studio. Female Instructor: Pearl
Male Instructor: Fadelf
Sign up today at www.pearlschoolofmodeling.com
$99 deposit due by April 30th to secure your spot!

Monday, April 6, 2015

A LADY NAMED PEARL’S BOOK CLUB: THINK AND GROW RICH

Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill is our 9th book for A Lady Named Pearl's book club.

The books that we select have a strong focus on leadership and becoming the best you!

Of our 9 books read, Think and Grow Rich, has landed in the top 3 of my favorites.


Here’s why:

1)   The author is amazing at providing direction and tools for you to accomplish your goals.
2)   The author has spent twenty years studying some of the most successful businessmen such as Henry Ford, Andrew Carnegie, Thomas Edison, and many others, and has provided us with 13 laws of success.
3)   The author has included great stories of men and situations, which assist in the relatability of the characters and their growth.
4)   This book is said to have produce the most millionaires.


Below find statements we selected, which are mentioned in the various chapters of the book. This will give you a feel for the book. We highly recommend that you read the entire book!

Purpose: The object of this book is to help all who seek it to learn the art of changing their minds from failure consciousness to success consciousness.


Chapter 1 –Thoughts are Things

Truly, "thoughts are things," and powerful things at that, when they are mixed with definiteness of purpose, persistence, and a burning desire for their translation into riches, or other material objects.

When a man really desires a thing so deeply that he is willing to stake his entire future on a single turn of the wheel in order to get it, he is sure to win.

Opportunity has a sly habit of slipping in by the back door, and often it comes disguised in the form of misfortune, or temporary defeat. Perhaps this is why so many fail to recognize opportunity.


Before we can accumulate riches in great abundance, we must magnetize our minds with intense desire for riches that we must become “money conscious” until the desire for money drives us to create definite plans for acquiring it.


Chapter 2 – Desire – The Starting Point To All Achievement

Six Ways to Turn Desires into Gold

First – fix in your mind the exact amount of money you desire
Second – determine what you intend to give in return for that money
Third – establish a definite date
Fourth – create a definite plan (begin at once whether you are ready or not)
Fifth – write a clear concise statement of the above steps
Sixth – read your statement aloud twice daily


Chapter 3 – Faith - Visualization Of, And Belief In Attainment Of Desire
Faith is a state of mind, which may be induced, or created, by affirmation or repeated instructions to the subconscious mind, through the principle of autosuggestion.

Conduct yourself just as you would if you were already in possession of the material thing you are demanding, when you call upon your subconscious mind.


Chapter 4 - Autosuggestion - The Medium For Influencing The Subconscious Mind

Six Steps to Stimulate Your Subconscious

First: go into a quiet spot, where you will not be disturbed. Close your eyes and repeat aloud, (so you hear your own words) the written statement of the amount of money you intend to accumulate, the time limit for its accumulation, and a description of the service or merchandise you intend to give in return for the money. As you carry out these instructions, see yourself already in possession of the money.

Second: repeat this program night and morning until you can see (in your imagination) the money you intend to accumulate.

Third: place a written copy of your statement where you can see it night and morning, and read it just before retiring and upon arising until it has been memorized.

The time will soon come, if you do as you have been instructed, in spirit as well as in act, when a whole new universe of power will be revealed.   

Man may become the master of himself, and of his environment, because he has the power to influence his own subconscious mind.

Chapter 5 - Specialized Knowledge - Personal Experiences Or Observations

Knowledge will not attract money, unless it is organized, and intelligently directed, through practical plans of action, to the definite end of accumulation of money.

The missing link in all systems of education may be found in the failure of educational institutions to teach their students how to organize and use knowledge after they acquire it.

Education – the word is derived from the Latin word “educo,” meaning to educe, to draw out, to develop from within.

An educated man is not, necessarily, one who has an abundance of general or specialized knowledge. An educated man is one who has so developed the faculties of his mind that he may acquire anything he wants, or its equivalent, without violating the rights of others.

Anything acquired without effort, and without cost is generally unappreciated, often discredited; perhaps this is why we get so little from our marvelous opportunity.

Being asked to pay, whether the student makes good grades or poor, has an effect of causing one to follow through with the course when he would otherwise drop it.

One thing that is strange about human beings is that they value only that which has a price.


Chapter 6 – Imagination - The Workshop Of The Mind

Man can create anything he can imagine.

Synthetic Imagination – through this faculty, one may arrange old concepts, ideas, or plans into new combinations.  This faculty creates nothing. It merely works with the material of experience, education, and observation with which it is fed.

Creative Imagination – through the faculty of creative imagination, the finite mind of man has direct communication with Infinite Intelligence.  It is the faculty through which “hunches” and “inspirations” are received.

Both the synthetic and creative faculties of imagination become more alert with use, just as any muscle or organ of the body develops through use.  



Chp 7 – Organized Planning – The Crystallization of Desire Into Action

Ally yourself with a group of as many people as you may need for the creation and carrying out of your plan or plans of accumulation of money – making use of the “Master Mind” principle.

Before forming your “Master Mind” alliance, decide what advantages and benefits you may offer the individual members of your group, in return for their cooperation.

Arrange to meet with the members of your “Master Mind”  group at least twice a week, and more often if possible, until you have jointly perfected the necessary plan or plans for accumulation of money.

Maintain perfect harmony between yourself and every member of your “Master Mind” group.


Chapter 8 – Decision – The Mastery of Procrastination

Analysis of several hundred people who had accumulated fortunes well beyond the million-dollar mark disclosed the fact that every one of them had the habit of reaching decisions promptly, and of changing these decisions slowly, if, and when they were they changed.

Take no one into your confidence, except the members of your “Master Mind” group, and very sure in your selection of this group, that you choose only those who will be in complete sympathy and harmony with your purpose.

Keep your eyes and ears open- and your mouth closed, if you wished to acquire the habit of prompt decision.

Tell the world what you intend to do, but first show it.

Chapter 9 – Persistence – The Sustained Effort Necessary To Induce Faith

Persistence is an essential factor in the procedure of transmuting desire into its monetary equivalent. The basis of persistence is the power of will.

As one makes an impartial study of the prophets, philosophers, miracle men, and religious leaders of the past, one is drawn to the inevitable conclusion that persistence, concentration of effort, and definiteness of purpose, were the major sources of their achievements.


Chapter 10 – Power of the Master Mind – The Driving Force

Master Mind – coordination of knowledge and effort, in a spirit of harmony, between two or more people, for the attainment of a definite purpose.

Men take on the nature and the habits and the power of thought of those with whom they associate in a spirit of sympathy and harmony.

Chapter 11 – The Mystery of Sex Transmutation

Sex desire is the most powerful of human desires.
When driven by this desire, men develop keenness of imagination, courage, will-power, persistence, and creative ability unknown to them at other times.

The men of greatest achievement are men with highly developed sex natures: men who have learned the art of sex transmutation.

The men who have accumulated great fortunes and achieved outstanding recognition in literature, art, industry, architecture, and the professions, were motivated by the influence of a woman.

Sex energy is the creative energy of all geniuses. There never has been, and never will be a great leader, builder, or artist lacking in this driving force of sex.


Seldom does an individual enter upon highly creative effort in any field of endeavor before age forty. The average man reaches the period of his greatest capacity to create between forty and sixty.

Chapter 12 – The Subconscious Mind – The Connecting Link
You cannot entirely control your subconscious mind, but you can voluntarily hand over it any plan, desire, or purpose, which you wish, transformed into concrete form.

The subconscious mind may be voluntarily directed only through habit.

Chapter 13 – The Brain – A Broadcasting And Receiving Station For Thought

Dr. Alexander Graham Bell, and Dr. Elmer R Gates, observed that every human brain is both a broadcasting and receiving station for the vibration of thought.

Every human brain is capable of picking up vibrations of thought, which are being released by other brains.


Chapter 14 – The Sixth Sense – The Door To The Temple Of Wisdom

The sixth sense is that portion of the subconscious mind, which has been referred to as the creative imagination.  It has also been referred to as the “receiving set” through which ideas, plans, and thoughts flash into the mind. The flashes are sometimes called hunches or inspiration.

Understanding of the sixth sense only comes by meditation through mind development from within.




* A Lady Named Pearl served as a professor in the School of Business at Clark Atlanta University for four years, teaching Leadership and Professional Development. Pearl is a top model, and the founder of Pearl School of Modeling, which specializes in modeling and leadership training.

Wednesday, April 1, 2015

SPRING CLEANING – DE-CLUTTER YOUR LIFE


SPRING CLEANING – DE-CLUTTER YOUR LIFE

Written by Pearl Fils-Aime


Spring cleaning is the practice of thoroughly cleaning a house in the springtime.

How about the cleaning of your life?

Do you find that you have to de-clutter your life….now is the perfect time! The perfect time for peace and focus!

Here are some tips for Spring Cleaning your life.

1)   Evaluate the people in your life – are they draining you of your energy? Or are they adding to your growth as an individual?
2)   Evaluate what is most important to you – what do you want to accomplish during your time here on earth? What are you most passionate about?  Once you have answered those questions, eliminate the things in your life, that do not support your vision. You have to make more time for the things that are important to you.
3)   Reduce your commitments – often times we are pulled to the left and to the right, because we over commit.  Say “no” to non-essential things. Write down your goals, and if what’s being asked is not aligned with your goals or growth, re-evaluate committing to the task.
4)   Simplify your work area, and your home of clutter. Clutter can distract you and create chaos. Throw away or recycle things that you no longer use.  Donate unwanted clothing.  You don’t want messiness and a lack of organization to create stress in your life.
5)   Create a list of the activities you want to accomplish before going to bed, or when walking up in the morning, and focus on those activities.
6)   Exercise and eat right – Don’t clutter your life with health problems. There are many diseases that are preventable with the right diet and exercise.

DO YOU KNOW HOW MUCH YOU DON'T KNOW?

DO YOU KNOW HOW MUCH YOU DON’T KNOW?
Written by Coach Mark

If you study the path of the most successful people, you will see that most of them had a considerable amount of guidance and help along the way. There’s no need to re-invent the wheel. It’s just easier to get instructions from someone that has already done what you strive to do. This person is a mentor. A mentor is someone that is going to help you get from where you are, to where you want to be. They show you the potholes in the road and guide you down the best path. To go through life without a mentor, is like trying to go through a jungle without a guide. It’s going to be very dangerous, take you longer, and it just doesn’t make sense. 
Before you begin looking for a mentor, there are a few things that you should ask yourself.
1)   Do you know how much you don’t know? 

A person can never learn a lesson that they think they are already know. Have you ever met someone that thinks they have it all figured out? Someone that thinks they know it all. They lose sight of the need of a mentor, and an enriching opportunity to learn from someone that can provide insight and direction.



If you knew it all, you would have the results and life you are seeking. If you don’t have that….keep reading.
2) How teachable are you?
To determine how teachable you are, there is a scale called “The Teach-ability Index” that measures your teach-ability. There are two variables when it comes to the teach-ability index.
1)   What is your willingness to learn on a scale from 1-10? (What are you willing to give up to learn? Are you willing to give up watching TV or give up playing on the Internet for a few weeks to learn a new skill or craft?) 
2) What is your willingness to accept change on a scale from 1-10? (Are you willing to accept that things may not be as you may have always thought they were? Remember, at one time scientist thought the world was flat. At one time, the idea of having a computer in your pocket was absolutely ridiculous. The more we open ourselves to change, the more we increase what’s possible for us.)
Multiply your willingness to learn by your willingness to accept change, ­to figure out your teach-ability. Don’t start looking for a mentor until your teach-ability score is at least 85-90. It will be a better experience for you and the mentor.
Here are a few places to look for a good mentor when your teach-ability score is high enough
1)   Start with family and friends
2)   Consider those in your extended network (friends of friends)
3)   Research and the Internet (Google, YouTube, Facebook, & LinkedIn)
4)   Your industry and others in your field
5)   Industry events (lunches, seminars, conferences, community groups & chamber of commerce)
To learn more about finding a mentor and some more tips on choosing & dealing with a mentor, listen to Coach Mark’s 30 Power in A Half Hour talk called “ Who Do You Listen To” at www.bit.ly/power012615 or you can listen to more from Coach Mark at www.powerinahalfhour.com - you can also find Coach Mark on Twitter & IG @coachmarkspeaks and on FaceBook – Mark Starr

Tuesday, March 31, 2015

DREXINA NELSON - DEFYING THE ODDS

Drexina Nelson

DREXINA DEFYING THE ODDS
Written by Pearl Fils-Aime
Edited by Denise Sarkor

It is 3pm. I enter her office for our interview. “Pearl,” says a warm and inviting voice from behind a wall—she must have heard the sound of the door shutting behind me. I follow her voice into a photography studio. There, a sprightly Chihuahua runs up to and greets me. As I look up from the Chihuahua, I recognize a team of people—all seated—having lunch together. Drexina is among them, but rises to welcome me with a beautiful smile and warm hug.

Drexina Nelson is a beauty, fashion and advertising photographer with a remarkable eye. She is defying the odds in the photography industry, being one of few African-American female photographers in the business.

Drexina has captured some of the most beautiful and talented people in the world of entertainment, including Idris Elba, Kanye West, Tracie Ellis Ross, Malcolm Jamal Warner, Ludacris, Kandi Burgess, Cynthia Bailey, and NeNe Leakes to name a few. 


I had the opportunity to shoot with Drexina in December of 2014, and the experience had a profound impact on me. Beyond awe at her accomplishments, I was so greatly impressed by her spirit that I had to acknowledge her in this featured article for the launch of PEARL, the magazine.

Drexina was born in Albany, GA and raised in Atlanta, the capital—and most densely populated city—of Georgia. As a child she dreamt of being Motown’s pop star, Diana Ross.  She loved beauty and fashion, and envisioned a career as a fashion designer.  While attending the illustrious Clark Atlanta University, Drexina commenced her studies in Fashion. However, like many college students, she switched her major after realizing it was not the right path for her. Drexina became an Art major; it was a perfect fit. After graduating, she immediately pursued her MBA.

To be completely transparent, Pearl, I did not want to be a starving artist. So, I got my MBA right after I graduated with my Art degree.”

With an MBA in her toolkit, Drexina served as a global implementation analyst for a major corporation. She worked in this capacity for several years before transitioning into the beauty industry as a full-time, make-up artist.

I remember taking my portfolio to an agency. They said they loved the make-up, but the photography wasn’t strong.”

Unafraid of a challenge, Drexina purchased a professional camera and lights, and became the photographer for her make-up work. She began shooting dolls and neighbors as her first subjects. Her competitive drive kept her studying hard, day and night. Soon after, Drexina became a sought-after photographer.
My first big shoot was with Akon. Opportunities were coming left and right. Within a year, I was able to shoot Idris Elba for Vogue.”

How did she separate herself from the rest of the market, and get noticed so quickly?  Drexina explains that when she entered the market, many photographers were shooting for magazines such as KING and Black Men, using a style that focused on the assets of women.

I aimed to capture the beauty of a woman as opposed to the booty of a woman,” Drexina says with a chuckle.  

Next Chapter for Drexina

Photography is spiritual to me. Recently there has been a shift in my work. I have a life coach/healer, and she has helped me work through certain blocks in my life; it’s changing my approach to photography. I used to see things for what I wanted them to be, now I see them for what they are,” says Drexina.

Drexina is in her 10th year of photography. “I am more authentic. I am ready to come out the way that I am supposed to with my work. It is about women’s empowerment. That’s why I started. It’s about making women feel beautiful, and changing lives.

The Society Salon

One of Drexina’s newest ventures is The Society Salon. It is a branch of her beauty empire. The Society Salon is a membership-based salon geared towards empowering women through its network of members. 


Pearls of Wisdom from Drexina Nelson
It’s not about the spotlight. It’s not about the fame. It’s about staying true to your passion and mastering your craft.”   

When building your business, be sure not to be influenced by everyone else. You can only be you. Stay true to yourself.”  

Don’t expect anybody to give you anything. You have to work for it. No free lunch.

I believe in growing like a tree. I don’t want to grow fast, and have no substance. I want to be a tree that lasts forever.

For more information on Drexina, visit www.drexina.com.



PEARL MAGAZINE CELEBRATION AT NEGRIL VILLAGE




DOWNLOAD OUR SPRING ISSUE!!!
On Sunday, March 29th, A Lady Named Pearl, LLC released it's publication entitled PEARL. PEARL magazine focuses on leadership and professional development content, and will be distributed throughout the Atlanta University Center. Special thanks to Drexina Nelson, celebrity photographer and founder of The Society Atlanta for providing the platform for the celebration.